Falling in Love

Speaking to someone who is going through this experience is interesting. The sense of euphoria that they feel tends to mean that you can say things to them which in the normal run of things would cause a strong reaction and they will just receive it with a smile. Trying to get them to slow down is a different matter. "I have got to have this person now" is their vibe. I have heard it said that falling in love is akin to a mental illness. Does it have any value? Apart from being the subject of millions of songs thus providing an important source of income to many people, that is?

Speaking for myself I think that is a worthwhile experience and often a great feeling but I think that being in love with a person and loving them are two different things. Being in love is about the person experiencing it, loving someone is about them, the two may not be mutually compatible. being "in love" can be about possession, love is much more about what is best for the other person. I remember when I realised that in my own case, when my wishes for the other person's wellbeing and happiness conquered my desire to possess them, the realisation that maybe I was not essential to her happiness, in fact that I could be a hindrance. At that point I released her and gave her permission to end the relationship at any time. What would have happened if I hadn't said that I don't know; as it is we got married.

Falling in love is human, I don't think there is anything wrong with that and even if I did it would not stop it happening. Love is of God. To make the transition from the one to the other was with  me nothing short of a miracle.

So I'm not knocking falling in love, it's got some good bits like romance, can stick around for ever. It is not recommended to use heavy machinery whilst it is happening though.